With school out and the kids at home, it is important to build a cooperative spirit in family interactions and avoid patterns that provoke defensiveness. When people become defensive walls go up, ears shut down, emotions can quickly become negative and harsh words can flow. One factor that can help avoid this is to slow down enough to really hear what the other person is saying. We are reminded in James 1:19 to be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.”